So far, I've only really been positive on this blog, but these past 2 weeks haven't been all that groovy, and I'm not going to sit here and tell you that recovery is always easy...because it isn't.
Relationships are a funny thing, whether it's a friendship, family relationship, or a romantic relationship. When living with an ED, you often do not realise how toxic you can be within relationships until someone tells you, or you see first hand for yourself. One thing I hate doing is upsetting people or letting people down. However, when your life become controlled by an ED, it is so easily done.
As I have mentioned in an earlier post, there are certain personality traits that are common in people who live with Ana, or other ED's. One of these personality traits is that you become obsessed with wanting people to like you. I have this trait, and have done for as long as I can remember, and it can make me very needy. I always seek approval and attention in order to feel loved, and I really hate that. What I sometimes forget, especially when life is not pretty and lovely, is that this can take a toll on those closest to me, by bringing them down and relying on them too much to give me happiness. Obviously, this is NEVER intentional, but it happens. I've been in a few conflicts, especially over the past few years with those closest to me over Ana; this is due to friends/family not being able to see where I am coming from, and me not being able to see things from their point of view either. This causes obvious friction, and can result in both of you getting hurt.
One thing I must say is that dependency is NOT a weakness, it is healthy as long as you keep it balanced. I know that other people I have talked to who have ED's or other mental health issues also struggle with being too dependent on other people for their own happiness, and because of this I have done some thinking on ways to overcome this, and just simple tips!
Tips for happiness:
1) Give yourself love- if you can't love yourself, how can you expect others to easily love you?!
2) Surround yourself with positive people- all the time you are surrounded by negative people, you are allowing yourself to be brought down.
3) Take time to 'work' on yourself, have a day to yourself, go shopping, get your nails done, go for a walk! Whatever it is, just make sure you make time for yourself and that you're doing it for YOU and not to get approval from others.
4) Remember, only you can control your happiness
5) Set yourself a goal, make sure you're working towards something.
6) "Do not let your happiness depend on something that you might loose" C.S Lewis
7) Learn to recognise the triggers for your emotional dependency
8) Never let anyone make you feel bad about being you. If they do, why are they in your life?
9) Seek a positive in everything, every day- this will open up your mind and you'll start to see all the perks of life.
10) BE YOURSELF. Please never try and be someone you are not just for the satisfaction of others. You'll only become unhappy and more reliant on other people.
Lots of love,
Daisy May xo
Relationships are a funny thing, whether it's a friendship, family relationship, or a romantic relationship. When living with an ED, you often do not realise how toxic you can be within relationships until someone tells you, or you see first hand for yourself. One thing I hate doing is upsetting people or letting people down. However, when your life become controlled by an ED, it is so easily done.
As I have mentioned in an earlier post, there are certain personality traits that are common in people who live with Ana, or other ED's. One of these personality traits is that you become obsessed with wanting people to like you. I have this trait, and have done for as long as I can remember, and it can make me very needy. I always seek approval and attention in order to feel loved, and I really hate that. What I sometimes forget, especially when life is not pretty and lovely, is that this can take a toll on those closest to me, by bringing them down and relying on them too much to give me happiness. Obviously, this is NEVER intentional, but it happens. I've been in a few conflicts, especially over the past few years with those closest to me over Ana; this is due to friends/family not being able to see where I am coming from, and me not being able to see things from their point of view either. This causes obvious friction, and can result in both of you getting hurt.
One thing I must say is that dependency is NOT a weakness, it is healthy as long as you keep it balanced. I know that other people I have talked to who have ED's or other mental health issues also struggle with being too dependent on other people for their own happiness, and because of this I have done some thinking on ways to overcome this, and just simple tips!
Tips for happiness:
1) Give yourself love- if you can't love yourself, how can you expect others to easily love you?!
2) Surround yourself with positive people- all the time you are surrounded by negative people, you are allowing yourself to be brought down.
3) Take time to 'work' on yourself, have a day to yourself, go shopping, get your nails done, go for a walk! Whatever it is, just make sure you make time for yourself and that you're doing it for YOU and not to get approval from others.
4) Remember, only you can control your happiness
5) Set yourself a goal, make sure you're working towards something.
6) "Do not let your happiness depend on something that you might loose" C.S Lewis
7) Learn to recognise the triggers for your emotional dependency
8) Never let anyone make you feel bad about being you. If they do, why are they in your life?
9) Seek a positive in everything, every day- this will open up your mind and you'll start to see all the perks of life.
10) BE YOURSELF. Please never try and be someone you are not just for the satisfaction of others. You'll only become unhappy and more reliant on other people.
Lots of love,
Daisy May xo
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